Having BPD, I find myself as almost being "too nice". I tend to get stepped on by the "norms". Actually, I hardly have the interpersonal skills to be manipulative. Maybe BPD's are emotional, erratic, but not nasty. BPD can be a very painful, lonely illness that is very misunderstood. Let us hope as more and more is being uncovered about the illness, not a disorder, the social stigma will lift.