Um....I think THEY are delusional. Just stay away from your mom until you can cope. She is not in your circle of support, and no one that you are going to be able to go to if you need someone to say "Yes Anika...do what you need to do for your family, and I will help you for however long you need." You need that person right now. It is sad when your family isn't that person or people...but you just have to come to terms with the fact they are never going to change. The only person who can change is you, and after a while that'll make you stronger. Because right now I'm hearing I get strong...and then I let them rip me apart. You may have to stay away from your mom for a good long time.