I need help here, just because I say I can't kick these kids out, I still need help. The dishes from the other day after dishes were done sat in the sink. I washed everything else and probably some of theirs. Last night my spouse put the dishes in a laundry basket and put them in the kids room. We have been a month with 250 gallons of oil, that has never happened in the 20 years we have been here and the weather is mild. Kids insist on leaving their window open for fresh air even if it is 0 outside. Girlfriends cat peed on daughters things and still they sit at the laundry because they have not picked them up and yet they have money to buy drugs. Butt jar outside dumped, couldn't be the dogs, they don't go out that door. Girlfriend's jar. You need to know how gross this is for me. I asked spouse to please sweep it up for me as it is a real trigger for me. Laundry basket with dishes found in washing machine. Spouse put them in sink, I washed.

I really don't know what to do, he is my son and his behavior is making me nuts. I suspect that a lot of this is drug related. I spoke with our attorney the other day and she told me what would happen with him and that I was right, he should be left to fend for self with a public defender.

The thing that makes me stuck is that he acts like a victim and that is a trigger for me. My kids should never be victims, my adopted daughter left because she was a victim. Victim yes but of her boyfriend and of her past, not us. I get so confused. His behavior seems hateful at best. He can't see anyone but himself and girlfriend.