My T, who I just LOVE, has gotten irritated and angry before. I did something phenomenally stupid last week, and it made her upset. She said I needed to toughen up and deal. But I didn't really mind that she said it... she is right! And 1 night when one of the insiders (alters) was wanting to go home and cut, she was like, You will NOT go home and do that!! I'm gonna get BOSSY with you NOW...you go home and go straight to BED!

she just does it because she cares. and sets boundaries.
when my old T used to say something like that, it devastated me to no end. But this T-- I know she loves me and that if she gets frustrated or upset with me, she's not going to stop caring, and in 5 minutes all will be well again.