I can very much relate to the fear and hesitation....I recall a few times when my T has been upset with me. Instead of practicing what he preached, though, he reacted in hurtful ways...once, even threatening to discontinue working with me. Another time telling me that he wouldn't hesitate to tell my daughter I was dumb.

Afterwards, I felt it was very important to address these things with him - and both times, he admitted that he was feeling desperate with me...and was trying to get through to me. I told him that it would've been much more effective if he would've just shared how he was feeling - as opposed to reacting in such ways.

Once I addressed it with him, I felt powerful...instead of hiding my fears and concerns, I took that step forward...

Even though we've talked through it....I still find myself hesitating to tell him certain things, for fear that he will react as he did those times....

Your post has me thinking....that perhaps when I have this fear, I need to address it with him - so that we can come to a clear understanding on both sides....

I am glad that you're raising this with T....