Irritation is not the same as disapproval. I get irritated by itchy wool, but in no way disapprove of it.

One thing to keep in mind is that, yes your therapist has some work to do here, but you've got some too. You got to be able to let her pull herself out of this mess.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship when two people are involved. People get irritated, disappointed, upset and sometimes just outright angry with each other. Your therapist is exactly right, it doesn't spoil anything at all. It's just the way it is.

It's about fighting into and not away from the relationship.