I struggle with this as a client... I frustrated my T on a few occasions and it's very obvious that she is frustrated with me. And for me, that's just not ok. That's 'bad'. It's not ok for someone to get angry with me, they may leave me, and it wipes out my worthiness. It was part of the big rupture.

We talk about it. How I get frustrated with her, too. And that it doesn't mean that I'm going to bail, or think she's horrible, or any of those things. It's just an in the moment feeling. A personal thing. An "I feel helpless to do something".

Sadly my T uses my experiences as a T against me. Do I get irritated with clients? Yes. Does it make me value them any less? No. Most of the time the irritation is because of something inside of ME. I am tired, or feel helpless, etc, etc, etc.

Talk about it with T. Remember, we're human. We feel all those emotions everyone else has, and the way we handle them is to work through them together.