Sounds like there is something going on here that isn't being spoken about however.

Before I got married, I specified that I didn't want any children....turned our I couldn't take the pill....we ended up having our daughter.....I was going to make sure that no "oops" would ever happen again & my ob said having my tubes tied from his experience would usually end up with the woman needing a hystorectomy later on. I wanted NOTHING to do with my husband from that point on. I didn't realize it at the time, but the conflicts we had before we were married were the things also that made me really NOT LOVE HIM from the time we were married.

Know that couples therapy would have helped & maybe I wouldn't have just stuck around for 33 years before finally leaving......

There is definitely something wrong in your marriage.....it's important to go to counseling to at least get the problem out in the open.

Just wondering if what you aren't speaking about in regards to any infidelity might be something that may be causing a problem. There can be issues with porn & other things that could cause your wife to have feelings that she isn't able to put into words....but comes out in a distance between you.......have no idea what might be hidden within the walls of your marriage.....but the distance your wife is showing is definitely CAUSED by something including the possibility that was previously mentioned (untreated post partum depression).

Only good therapy can help pull the issues out in the open & get them resolved.