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Jul 18, 2011, 07:29 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Please sweetie ~ DON'T feel guilty!!! You haven't had a relationship with him because you were protecting yourself!! No one would expect you to throw yourself under the bus -- and that's what you'd be doing right now if you began a "friendship" with him. Since you didn't mention if he's seeing a therapist, I assume he's not. You'd just be putting yourself in danger of being HURT big time again. He needs professional help ~ and badly!!
You are NOT an awful daughter!! This is self-preservation -- exposing yourself to more abuse will just make you MORE depressed & hurt.
You could write him a letter and GENTLY tell him that if he gets some help (therapy) you will consider having a relationship with him. Let him know that you do love him, but you can't go thru what you did before. He's the only one who can get the help for himself -- so you're putting it back in his hands.
God bless you -- I hope something "gives" -- but please don't feel guilty. This isn't your fault. Take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee 
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