He is my son, I want him to feel loved. I never felt that. Then he knows what buttons to push. He has substance abuse and bipolar 2. I wonder what I have done to make him this way. He really loves us, I know that. I am confused about the tough love. There is no doubt that he will be at court by himself. We may have our attorney be there just happenstance to make sure he gets a public defender. Also, I had severely disturbed foster kids here when he was small and saw too much. He was exposed to things he never should have been. He has trauma in his history of a sexual nature and will not discuss it. I can guess it's one out of two scenerios. As for the girlfriend. She's a brat. Thinks the world owes her. Lived on welfare with a battered mom and mom appears to not have a conscience. She really doesn't even note that she dirties dishes and should clean, that her cat soils and needs clean litter. She is way messed up. She has anxiety and probably some sort of hallucinatory disorder but is aware they are hallucinations. She is moody and yells at my animals and my son. She makes me mad. She has said things to my daughter that make me mad but daughter handles it well. So that is the way it is for me. I feel responsible, I feel protective.