Having read both threads, I would suggest that neither of you have any trust left for the other, and things really do look doomed. If he's been physically abusive you need to get out, and he certainly seems emotionally abusive... also very one sided in the picture he painted of you. You did not cheat, you had broken up from him. And he says in his thread that he gave you money, as though he were a purely generous benefactor, when in fact it was money he owed you... in fact your money to do with as you will.

Having been in an emotionally and occasionally physically abusive relationship with a man in the past, all I can say is get out. Cut your losses and run. I say the same thing to him also, since I'm sure he's reading this thread.

He has no faith in you, you have no sense of security or trust in him... where can this relationship possibly go? It's sad, but it's run it's course.