there are tons of women who don't achieve orgasm by penetration. they achieve it by foreplay that involves the clitoris. that is why i suggested that you start working with a vibrator (preferably an E.O.B., (electric operated boyfriend). and eventually, you may achieve orgasm during the actual intercourse. and involving the husband, in your personal time, after you're comfortable with it, will surely help. as he will realize that it takes more than perhaps he thought it did. hope this helps. i had my first one at 48 in the front seat of a pickup truck.... hope that makes some certain people grin.