She has admitted that some times she gets ahead of me and feels badly about it. And there are times when she gets ahead of herself IMO. I know that she absolutely means no harm and cares about me. And the one time I did show really intense emotion with her she did sit through it with me and was OK with it. She has studied Gestalt (among others) therapy so she should be able to do emotions.
I also think that after 4 years (give or take) of working together she gets frustrated by how scared I get and how much it limits our ability to work together. She has made significant efforts to help me feel safe including having me bring my dog or one of my cats with me to our sessions (although I think she likes having a cat in the office)

If she would remember when she did this stuff I wouldn't mind so much! Bringing up something, letting it drop and giving me time can work very very well with me. It gives me time to think about it and then talk about it. Being Aspi that extra time is a huge help. BUT she has to remember!