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Originally Posted by VoNPD
3 words: communicate, communicate, communicate!
Sounds like he has as many fears around relationships as you do. The moving slow part actually sounds normal and customary (healthy) to me.
My situation is somewhat similar. We have found that writing down our triggers helps a lot. When I wonder what has set him off, or what has caused me to flip out... it's usually on the 'trigger list'. Talking calmly (no heated words, no personalizing the problem) about what triggered us seems to take all the fear and doubt away. Now, we're working on building trust - that will take years.
We see T's individually. Perhaps someday, we will see a couples T and work on our past.
Good luck and hang in there!!! Sounds like love...
VoN |
VoNPD,
Thank you for your response. I see an imago therapist and have for about a year and a half (before him, but I just started going again) and I am learning how to communicate better and he's perceptive to it. I know he has a lot of fear too and the moving slow is just something I'm not used, but it's normal. Thanks again for the response, I know it'll get easier. Best of luck to you as well in your relationship
