I think your T was trying to get you to trust her and to believe that she does not hate you. She thinks you're lumping her together with other people who you think hate you and she doesn't know what to say or do so that you will believe that she in fact, likes you and wants to help you.

As far as how other Ts would treat you, of course I vote for my T and her gentle manner. But I think you want to stick with your T. Can you tell her you're not ready to trust her, and that you need to sit on the floor and play games longer until you're ready to talk more? She doesn't know what you want and need from her if you can't tell her.