((((((candy))))))Family!!!! I heard recently that friends are God's way of apologizing for family...

of course they want you to go along with their decisions, that way they are done with your issues, solved all your problems (or placed them upon a scapegoat, so to speak.) I fully understand wanting to maintain your autonomy...and I agree, keep your status quo as long as is feasible. Things may not be so desperate feeling before anyone plans.

Please don't take out other ppl's ignorance upon yourself. That you can share this anger (and you have every right to the anger) is positive. I wish for you to be able to not be so angry. Pulling out of the usual family dynamics is not easy, and family's resistance is often one of dismay.

It's sad that we try to rely upon those who we think should be understanding and helpful, and find that they fall so short of our needs. TC