@tohelpafriend
thanks for the good words. just to et you know i have left my husband for good and trying to proceed with the legalities but with setbacks from you know where. i realise that these people, have thee mutifaceted personaities that they keep morphing from - 'i have been wronged' ' i am in need of love' 'i am too good for you' to 'i am the centre of the universe' that they put your brain into a sort of blender that you cant think or have belief in what you think about them. you shuttle between this person needs loving to run before i get killed or kill myself.
i think trying so hard to counsel him to do atleast the right things to lead a decent life drained me badly.he'd pretend listening to me then go back to doing things that actually supported his weakness. my ex actually supported our lifestyle by selling off property in his name inspite of me requesting him to work for our lifestyle. he didnt let me work as he thot i needed to be at home taking care of his very aged parents who were in hospitals by turns.( this is the norm in india,pref is given to family and not finding your own individuality- not that anything is wrong with that ,but getting to hear baseless abuses after all that from him and his parents was a torture.)
@strongerman- yes what u said was true, you try to be true loyal and hardworking and there are some people who would take full advantage of that and hurt you. guess he married me for the reason that i came across as a loving, open, cooperative,willing to listen. well i have a better chance at life now that i am out of it mentally and physically atleast. back with friends and family, aving being isolated for so long makes me feel alive again. everyday is a new great day!