Granite, she didn't say she hated you. She said she is doomed to be a person you hate. Not vice versa. I don't see any indication that she hates you.

I think she has been very patient with you and not treated you like she hates you or thinks you are mean. She has sat for many sessions with you when you didn't say a word. She has now also heard some of your story. I think switching Ts would be really hard right now--this T has made a lot of progress with you, such as getting you to talk sometimes, and helping foster positive feelings in you towards her. These are big accomplishments of for both of you!

What I think is that sometimes our therapists need encouragement and it helps them to know they are helping us. So if you can give her some feedback like that, I think it would be helpful. It sounds like she has some doubts that she has been helping you if she thinks you think she is "one of the bad people who hates you no matter what." Can you correct her on this? Tell her you don't think she is one of the bad people, tell her you don't think she hates you? I think it would help your relationship and therapy if you gave her some positive feedback. That helps give her clues as to what is working and inspiration to keep going.

I know you find it scary to talk to her, but if you feel strongly that you like her and want to keep on in therapy with her, then this can help that.

I hope you will hang in there with your T.