About 3 months ago I kinda let loose in session about how upset I was with T that she let me get dependent on her. I pointed my finger at her and said, "It's your fault! You should have seen this coming. You let me trust you. You should have done something to stop this. How could you let this happen? You knew I was vulnerable. Why didn't you do something to help me avoid getting into this position? I have gutted myself in front of you. I have laid myself open to you and now the result is this dependency. I hate it! I feel totally stupid feeling this way. I've never ever in my life needed someone emotionally like I do with you now. How can I make this feeling go away?"

Let me tell you - after reading the book, "Attachment in Psychotherapy", I now understand that this dependency is necessary for progress. The author, David Wallin carefully lays out the necessity of this kind of relationship with our therapists. I highly recommend this book. It has really really helped me accept for now my dependency on T.

Another book that has really helped is "A General Theory of Love." It talks about the limbic system in our brains and that we must have limbic resonance with our T's in order for our T's to help alter our brains which is called limbic revision. And independence from T will be the final result.

I now accept and even sometimes embrace (although it still feels a bit uncomfortable) my dependence on T now that I understand its therapeutic value. I know it will not last forever and is no more than depending on the emergency room staff at the hospital when I need treatment. Why should we fight so much the dependence on our T's when they are there to help and treat our emotional wounds?