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Originally Posted by SarahMichelle
Whenever we have talked about some scary/emotional/hard things (like past abuse), and whenever we have something going on and we allow ourselves to have feelings about it (instead of numbing out)... T always says we really worked hard. So apparently "hard work" has something to do with being truthful (instead of in denial, our normal stance  ), letting feelings out, and facing things head on-- that's my best guess! |
Yeah, I think this is it. Trying to learn how to be as honest as possible. Notice any resistance to opening up. Go in to session with the express intention of looking at yourself clearly.
I had asked T at end of session, "But what can I DO? (meaning in between sessions) She said that day to day life is the workshop. What happens in life is what we'll bring into session. Notice when we get emotional. Notice our emotions - don't stuff them. Be aware. Things that challenge us the most in RL emotionally we should bring to our T's to discuss.
That's the work. It's not a concrete thing like studying a book and then taking a test. It is a complete shift from our normal view of looking outwards and instead looking inwards. It can be very illusive but the more we're attentive to ourselves the more we can bring stuff to session. At least that's been my experience.