I am obsessed with a male friend (platonic) who I have kown for four years. Over this period of time, I have given him around £20,000 oover a four year period, using my savings, credit cards (and now in debt for £14,000). The money has been used to help and support him financially with his business, as well as gifts. I helped him buy a couple of vehicles. Hehas a partner (not married) but live together and a young daughter (7 years) , his partner has 2 childen, 15 & 18 and have been with her for about 15 years. He did leave her briefly but went back. Previouly said he hated her guts, and only stays for his daughter as he wants to see her, then about 3 months ago everything has got better. I have willingingly given him all this money and he has given a small bit back but nothing worth mentioning. I have done this because I am obsessed/infactuated with him and would do anything for him. I have anxiety attacks when he doesn;t text me, call me of meet up with me. We usually on average meet once or twice a week for a coffee. I can;t break this cycle and have thought about ending it all, just to give myself peace of mind. I have been married over 20 years and my husband knows of my friendship, but not the debt I am in. I previously had therapy but that didn;t break the cycle. \I don;t expect him to leave his current home life or daughter, I have my own personal issues at home with my parents. I could go on and on, with lots of details but the thread would be pages and pages.