Hope-Full, thanks for starting this thread! I've had Ts tell me I'm working hard and I didn't exactly know what that meant, either. My former T often told me that SHE was doing the work, that I wasn't. Hmm. I've gone to therapy for years but didn't change much. Change is hard! But if work also includes being honest with your T and saying things that make you blush and want to hide, then I've been working. It's interesting to read the replies on a topic I've never seen addressed before! Thanks.