Hi,

I've been reading back on some of the old threads about dependence, transference etc. trying to work out my own feelings with T which are a mess. One thing I'm not sure of though is what is actually healthy or good?

What I know is,

There is a relationship between a client and their therapist
It's different to any other relationship we have
They aren't our friend, lover, relative and yet it's much more personal than the physicality of someone like a doctor or dentist and involves regular contact with extreme emotions coming into play
Any "good" T will care and provide a caring and safe environment for a client to share which often includes sharing their most vulnerable thoughts, feelings and experiences

So with all of those things going on; and with so much else that comes up as well - what would a "healthy" relationship look like?

Wouldn't there need to be some level of dependence or attachment to be able to open up, share and trust? or not