Thanks for your post. I can relate! I have spent years trying to figure out my relationships issues. It took me a very long time to realize, i was being abused. I am now working with my therapist on what I Want, not what his fragile emotional needs demand. I have made progress not absorbing his moods and emotional needs. My bf was an alcholoic, a Cluster B personality undiagnosed as he refused to get help, and basically and infant. If you look at it like that, babies will dies if they are not cared for. This is what my bf was like, a toddler that MUST get his needs me By Me. If I did not, there was complete chaos. Ive only know one other person as self centered as him, ie my mother HELOO! My issues stem there is assume. Now, If I can figure out how what I get from being the caregiver? Boundries are another thing Im working on, I still regress sometimes. Im glad you posted, Hang in there!