You have a lot of good points already. I'll add a couple, but I'm trying to process my 'feelings' the same way you are.

For therapy to be effective, it's important to like and respect your T.
- If you didn't like or respect T, you wouldn't listen to what s/he has to say, and you wouldn't go back to therapy.
Therapists are trained to connect with their patients, and this can be emotionally confusing.
- (match our speech patterns, listen attentively, be encouraging and positive, ask us questions about ourselves).