I also would like to know the answer. I have been talking to my new T a bit about my relationship with my old T. Several people made me fell ashamed over the r/s I had with old T. New T has not said once that it was a toxic r/s. I told her that when I am stressed I think of old T and not my mother. New T said thank god for that. I was feeling guilty for thinking of old T and not my mom. There is more to this transference and I would like to read about it. The post regression in psychotherapy by skysblue was good and I would like to see an article on the attachment thing. We become intimate with our T's. Some T's actually help people with bathing and stuff like that if a person is trying to wash their skin off their bones. That is very intimate and so is sharing bad memories. I think we have to develop a r/s with them that goes beyond definition to the general population. If you are ok and have no mental health issues then it is hard for a person to understand any r/s with a T. Coupled with the fact that I/we have never had anyone help us so intimately and safely we get confused by the r/s. Old T discouraged me from researching this stuff but the question of healthy r/s with my T has never gone away. It fascinates me. Cant wait to read other posts!!!!!!!!!!