I personally think that the real work of therapy is taking control of and assuming responsibility for your own life. That is the ultimate freedom.

But it takes a lot of work to get there. There has to be a shift from the cognitive "knowing" that a change is needed, to a in the bones "feeling" that such change can occur and you are ultimately the catalyst of it.

I think a lot of us have been taught very very well that what happens to us is largely out of our hands. In a sense, this is true, we can no more control the majority of our lives than we can control the tides. However, we can control how we perceive and react to the situation.

This work definitely comes in phases. Accepting the absolute beauty of vulnerability is, for some (me!) an essential step in the opening up to the world and assuming my place in it, free of fear.

That was/is still the hardest thing for me.

I read on these boards so often of people resisting their therapist. I totally get that, but I've learned it takes so much more energy to hold things in than to let it out.

Just my thoughts.