This was such an honest, difficult (i.e., embarrassing) question. The answers about "she's going to terminate me" are so scary, and loaded. I set my ringtone to sweet chiming fairy bells for my T, like heaven or Santa is calling, purposely to offset that scary feeling. And then his picture with the babydoll appears (the guy earns his money!). So is this what we felt like in the crib, when we cried (did we realize the sound was coming from us?) and mother came or didn't? I see T in the morning. Whenever I think I have a great theory like that, he will completely shoot it down. That's okay, he sucks at MY job(s), so we're even.