Hey Rainbow8,

I can really understand your feelings of sadness that the theraputic relationship is so limited. The theraputic relationship is really one of the most complicated relationships in life. It's like feeling so incredibly close to someone one minute, but that they are completely out of reach the next and those 2 opposing feelings are in conflict a lot of the time.
I think perhaps a lot of the feelings you have for your T come from the Little Rainbow8 inside of you, who craves that unconditional positive attention that she gets from her T in the way she would from a parent.
I don't think your H will ever be able to fulfill that same need as you get from your T, just like a friend may not be able to fulfill the needs you get from your husband - these people all play their own important but very separate roles in your life. Being honest about your feelings with your therapist should help but perhaps trying your hardest to focus on other issues aside from your feelings for your T directly may be of more use to you. I can see how much you are hurting when you think of what your relationship with T can not be and perhaps even though them feelings will continue, you need to focus on other important issues. You could start thinking about what you do want from your marriage and how you would want to change things and what you feel could be done to make it better?
I know this is not going to stop the pain but sometimes going over the same painful issue which cannot be changed just breaks your heart more and makes it harder to get something positive from the theraputic relationship.

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