wow, I just wanted to say that this is a great question.
I've been trying to figure out how to answer it, but it's complicated, and different for everyone. And I think, if all goes well, it changes. Your needs change, and hopefully, especially if you're working on attachment-stuff, your relationship changes.
Sorry I don't have an answer, but I also think what's 'healthy' for me is different for someone else.
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