my wife and i were both in therapy for some time. sometimes together for marriage counselling and also separately for our own issues.

my wife was very insistent that i divulge information about what i spoke to the therapist about. she became petulant when i wouldn't and she accused me of not allowing her to be a part of my healing process. i don't believe that she is a part of it. some of the things i am healing from are/were caused by her. it's the same with my NA meetings: she always says that i shut her out from my recovery by not telling her what we do. she doesn't understand the anonymity in this situation, no matter how many times i try to explain it to her

now that she's in therapy again, i am supportive of her process and never intrude or ask personal questions about it. but even though i don not question her about her therapy, she now makes a point of regularly letting me know that i am not allowed to know what's going on in her therapy, because it's none of my business. but i get the impression that she is doing this as some way of making some twisted point? i dunno.

i hope she sticks it out with her therapy for longer this time around…