hi jessica. im deeply saddened to hear about your mom and the situation you are in. from a moms perspective... i would love to give you a huge hug. you know honey, although sonetimes we really hate having to ask for help or as you put it " be the famiy charity case"...plz try to let them help with whatever they offer...you really dont want 30 yrs to pass, and you realize that a huge part of life has passed you by. know that its ok to ask for help now, and that you deserve it.