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Old Jul 20, 2011, 11:12 AM
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Basically, you learn to depend on yourself. You learn to survive even if you don't have any always-wise parent figure you can depend on. You learn (or can learn) to be able to analyze what a T (or other person) may be missing, and to examine how you react to that.
An advantage to that is that there can be some pride that you feel by doing it all on your own. A sense of competence and achievement. It might be a little similar to how I feel about having beaten depression without taking meds. It wasn't my idea--my therapist said she wouldn't work with me if I took meds and so I didn't. I might have been helped at the time by meds, but it worked out OK!
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