I don't think I know what this means and was hoping for others views / ideas.

I have been let down several times in my life - one instance was when my midwife swapped my baby for another baqby (got my baby back thankfully) - this then led to me not trusting others with my baby - if you can't trust a midwife then who can you trust. Other breaches of trust in my life too.

I therefore think that to restore my trust I have to have examples of other people being trustworthy.

However I have been challenged about this and told it is down to me, this trust thing is in me not outside of me.

I really don't get it - if people have been untrustworthy, then how can it be down to me to re-build that trust - I need other people to be trustworthy first....don't I?

Also are there degrees of trust? - I think I completely trust or mistrust and can't seem to find any midground, again in my view people are either trustworthy or not trustworthy and if they are not trustworthy I do not want to spend time with them.