I know we've got a lot of "question" threads floating around right now, and I hate to add another, but...

In terms of taking care of ourselves and looking to get our needs met, some of those needs that will be tough to meet (childhood issues)...

What is the difference in asking her to help ME meet my needs, and asking her to DO something to meet my needs?

For example, if I tell my T that I need to know she is going to be there to help me pick up the pieces after a big event coming up, is that me meeting my needs by asking her if she'll be there? Or am I asking her to do something to meet my needs for me?

If I tell my T that I want her to explain to me how to do something specific, like how to deal with an anxiety attack, is that me meeting my needs, or is that me asking HER to meet my needs?