Hello Aiden

Don't worry, I doubt anybody will laugh at you for posting this. Your questions and concerns are totally normal. Reading your post put a few questions in my mind, you don't have to answer them if you don't want to, or you could just send me a pm.

You say that you like experimenting with women's clothing and makeup. Now, do you feel like you would rather be a woman in general? Or are you content being a guy, but just like to experiment with clothing of the opposite sex?

As for your sexuality, that is always a tough one. It can take years before you are finally sure of your sexuality. And being 14 years old, you don't have to put a label on yourself right away. You have plenty of time to date, to find out what attracts you and what doesn't. Just enjoy the teenage experience! I'll tell you about my "sexuality journey".

I'm 19 years old. I guess starting at 12, I realized that I was attracted to girls as well as guys. I kept this a secret for about 4 years. So at first, I thought I was a bisexual. But then I realized that I wasn't interested in sex at all. The only thing I'd ever want is a romantic relationship at the most, and even that seemed questionable. So I came out as an asexual. Then soon afterwards, back to a bisexual because people thought the asexual label was weird. About 6 months ago, I decided to be honest with myself and others, and came out as a bi-asexual. (Yes, this is a real sexual orientation!) It basically means I'm attracted to both sexes romantically, but not sexually.

I'm telling you this because even though at first I was ashamed of my sexuality because some people thought it was weird, I decided to be open and proud about my sexuality because it is a part of who I am. If others don't like it, too bad! Remember that sexual orientation is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not a choice, it is simply who we are.