I have to agree that coming on here and trying to get support is a very powerful thing.
Work with your therapist on your self-hatred issues. I am stubborn and will not let myself feel like a failure. I am on disability, but am contributing to my household a whole lot. My husband told me that I am basically paying the mortgage with the money I get now from SSDI. I just stay at home and do the housework.
Find something positive about yourself through therapy. It will take some time but I am sure you will find things to be positive about regarding yourself.
I know I will never set the world on fire, but I do the little things that help me. I have a good heart and love to help people, so I feel like I have some self-worth.
I know you do too!!!