Hey there! The situation with your BF reminds me of myself like 4 years ago. I had several girlfriends but didn't date for more any of them for more than like 3 months. I finally got into a long term relationship. There were several times I just had confidence problems. I guess I knew I was a great guy but didn't think that girls necessarily would appreciate me, like that they wanted something different. My ex had to reassure me several times. But then I finally realized that everyone has problems and not just myself. I'm not the perfect boyfriend but I am caring and I am thoughtful and that is what girls want.

So with you, I don't know, it helped when my girlfriend reassured me (of course I'm no longer with her...we dated for more than a year though). Perhaps just have a sit down talk with him. It sounds like he just THINKS way too darn much. He needs to go with the flow. He probably just has it drained in his head that he's not good enough and of course guys who think that way ARENT good enough because they keep telling himself that!!! I mean if you are a little tired but tell everyone alllll day you are tired, sooner or later you are going to end up tired, right? You are what you think. Have a talk with him, tell him why you are dating him (like his good qualities and the positive things you see in him). Tell him to just take a chill pill...it does sound like he's a nice man. I am sure he would be willing to commit long term if he just had more confidence...he may not want to commit probably right now because he thinks he's not good enough. Like it may be too much pressure on him to walk around with that burden. I would say he's not "comfortable in his own skin."

Good luck my friend!!! I don't know if I read into that situation well enough or not I am kinda rushed at work right now.