So ive been going through this for about 6 months now, here is a little background. I got married to my wife who I love so much, we got married after my deployment to Afghanistan. I was so happy we survived the deployment. As soon as we started living together fights were happening all the time, and I kinda distanced my self, I found myself saying what she wanted just to make her happy. This ended up hurting us cuz then i n ever did what i said I would. She really wants a baby, I think we should wait, so she things im being to controlling. (I want to wait tell I make a little more money cuz we can barely afford what we have now). I learned to stand my grand and not give in, and only say what I am going to do, sense then thigns have been great except she randomly gets supper pissed at little things. Like today She got off work early and I was at the gym about to head to school. SHe wanted to see me, but I said I had to finish working out and i have school but ill be home in a few hours. So she hung up on me and wont anser my calls, comes in the house slams the door and goes to bed. (she SLEEPS ALL THE TIME NOW, dosent do any of her responsabilities) i try to talk to her shes just quite and if i try to move her she starts kicking and breathing real hard and swining it looks like a tantrum.. and she will do th is for hours. she makes me feel like when ever i do my responsabilities like work and workout and go to class (im a marine i have to keep my physical fitness up) she even hates when i go to the gym for 30mins when shes home. Im so drained im tired of the fights and I dont understand how a 22yr old woman can act like that. I love her to death, but its holding us back its like she stays so madd all the time she dosent take care of her self and hold me back, ive missed school gained weight, cuz i try to talk to her and figured out whats going on, but she just says im a jerk or dosent talk to me. she gets so madd she crys and shakes. but i really dont understand why she is so mad. it scares me. and now i feeel like if it dosent stop were never gonna move on in our lives, never finish school or do the goals we set out, cuz shes always pouting in bed and im always trying to comfort her or figure out why with out any luck. also when shes not pissed at me she is so inlove with me and tells me how perfect i am and how happy she is, its like shes bipolar intell a little thing sets her off, sometimes i dont even know why a certain things set her off. like if i go do homework on my computer when shes home, she gets frustrated. I feel like somthngs wrong, and i feel so helpess i cant do anything about it.

Here some background about her, she was sexualy abused when she was young by her uncle and then her cousin, she also had to take care of her sisters alot cuz her mom worked 2 jobs. the last 5 years she didnt have to and has been care free with no responsabilties cuz she wants to be free or somthing. but then we got married and she said she wanted to be a good wife, but instead is still trying to be care free or somthing, but then again sometimes shes the opposite she trys to do all her goals. sometimes she just crys randomly, and wants me to hug her so I do. but i just dont understand, when she gets angry at me and disrespects me i get really frustrated, but its like she gets to be like this and dosent have to take responsabiltiy for her actions, but if i ever yell, im the bad guy... im so confused and i know this might not make alot of sense cuz im just tryping it as i go here. but if anyone has any suggestions im all ears.