Number one on my hit parade, right now, is "The problem is, is that..." Followed closely by, "Oh -- by the way..." My husband uses both of those. The first one just hits my grammar button, but the second one scares the bejaybers out of me. I'm always afraid of what's coming next.

The other one that bothers me is any variation on, "That happened a long time ago -- get over it already." But I"m learning to respond, "That's why I'm in therapy now, in order to get over it." Another favorite is, "OK, you've identified the problem -- so you don't have to worry about that anymore." "Hello? Identifying a problem is only the first step, right?"

Oh, and I get the drama queen thing, too. Isn't that funny? How many of us do? Only my family, of course. My mother, though, didn't say "drama queen" -- she'd say, "Theda Bara." I was probably the only 10 year old in the country who knew who she was...

Funny thing, have you ever noticed that it's often the people who inflict the hurts who tell you to get over it? Or that it shouldn't hurt?

Sorry you're getting smashed, Candybear.