I took this approach your therapist is taking many years ago and it sure has snowballed. i had lots of negative selftalk that kept me in the dark. My T does not understand how i can go to such dark places, but it has been a long while since i have been there. I teach a class now that discusses selfconcept and i go around the room asking people on a scale of 1-100 where their self concept lies and I can usually say mine is in the 90's. But it definately hasnt always been that way.

I started with one good thing. I can write well. (not that its always demonstrated here) But i write professional evaluations and they are kick *****. No matter how depressed I got, this one thing could not be taken away from me. I have a file cabinet in my head. So i started adding to the file cabinet. My boss appreciates me. That was another thing that could not be taken away. Slowly, I kept adding to the positive file in the cabinet. Then when the negative file drawers were open spewing out their vile garbage, I could open the positive drawer and say, "yeah, but i am an excellent writer and my boss appreciates me. I do my job well." Its taken many years but now the file drawers are pretty much filled with positve stuff. I went back to school, got my degree, doing lots of positive things with my life. All goes in the drawers. I still struggle with finding meaning in life, but the things I do have meaning.

so find something small and indisputable. are you kind? if not kind to everybody, maybe kind to children, old people or animals? do you have a talent? can you manage your money? your time? your household? r u a good listener? are you caring? empathetic? can u work on cars? fix household appliances? problem solve? cook? cook anything, just one thing well? garden? fish? take care of a pet? personal hygeine? helping others? hooking up electronics (that takes talent!)? photography?

another way to look at it is what brings you joy? if you are doing something that brings you happiness then chances are, you are good at whatever that is. if going to listen to a band makes you feel good then one good thing about you is that you appreciate music. going to the lake or hiking, you appreciate the outdoors.

there are lots of different ways to find good things about yourself. and if they are indesputable, then you will actually believe it because there is no way to say it isnt true.