My T told me once that "I won't always say what you want to hear." Fair enough. Still...

Because I have a problem with thinking others are untrustworthy, that they are manipulative (rather than direct) and sneaky (rather than upfront) and have hidden agendas, etc.. when I have struggled with situations similar to the one you describe, I find it is my misperceptions at work: my fears cause me to misperceive the other person and/or the situation.
I am trying to learn to 1. not act on my feelings at that time; and to try to just non-judgementally allow my perceptions and the fears that are being aroused, and to explore those as best I can.
Doing this helps me to be able to talk directly to T about my thoughts about the situation (so she can tell me her thoughts and what she actually was feeling and we compare that to my thoughts). That has become enjoyable and is so relieving too.

You're doing so well granite! You're now willing to think more about what you're experiencing and I think that's a huge accomplishment for you.