Everyone has their own way of dealing with grief, and almost everyone thinks that everyone else's way is crazy. Somestimes you have people telling you to "get over it" when they think you've been grieving too much, but I've seen it work the other way--someone telling someone else that they "haven't grieved" yet simply because the person hasn't spent nights crying or cooped up in the house or talking about the loss.

I think what a lot of people don't take into consideration with pet loss is that it's the grieving person's feelings that are the most important factor. They think to themselves, "This was a cat (or dog), not a person" and they're right...but they don't see that it doesn't matter to the person grieving. They loved that pet so much, they can't help but need time to grieve.