I agree with this...my T was really pressing me on something last summer that I was not even kind of CLOSE to being ready to talk about, but that is probably the most important thing in my history in some ways.

At the time, I completely lost it. I mean, I FREAKED. I was so so so so angry, and we had a phone call about it where i was sobbing so hard while I was driving he asked me to please pull over to the side of the road. Just last night, I looked for (and found) an e-mail from that time in my saved e-mails to see if it was as big and intense as I remember it, and it was.

After I freaked out, T completely dropped it. Didn't say one more word about it, and we moved on to other things. And a couple of months ago, *I* finally brought it up. Now we're working on it, and it is slow, and painful, and feels like it has the potential to be never-ending, but here we are.

I couldn't do it a year ago; now, some part of me must think I can.

I guess my point is, maybe T is right that it's an issue that you'll need to work on at some point...and maybe YOU are right that you're not ready yet. I really believe that we have an internal wisdom that guides us where we need to go in our therapy, in our own time. If you don't feel ready, trust that, and tell T. It doesn't mean that you won't feel ready forever. It means that's how you feel right now. It might be different next week or next month or next year, and that's okay.

((((((hugs)))))) to you! And please be gentle with yourself.