When I was seeing my former T, I asked her if I could email her and she said "no". I was envious of those who could email their Ts. So, when I started with my current T, I asked her at my first session. She said if it helped me to "unload", it was fine, but she didn't want to "do therapy via email."

At first she answered all of my emails, which I tried to limit to about 2 per week. I loved that! But, one week I got upset by her response because she didn't answer the way I wanted her to, and didn't answer everything, so I emailed her again. It was about 4 emails, one after another, and I was hurt/angry about them.

So, she decided that she would only respond once per week, no matter how many emails I send her. I usually write only 1 or 2, sometimes 3, and most often right after my session. I express myself better in writing than speaking, and it helps me to get it all out even if my T only answers once. What she emails is always comforting and positive, and shows me how much she cares about me.