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Old Jul 23, 2011, 11:51 PM
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I haven't posted a problem on this website in a while, because I haven't had a genuine concern to post about (and I am so grateful for that!), but recently I have been struggling with something and tonight I finally decided to get some outside opinions on it.

Over the last six months I have increasingly become resistant to being touched. This may not sound unusual for someone who doesn't have a "touchy-feely" personality, but I have ALWAYS liked to hug/touch/show physical affection. My mom used to make jokes (and get slightly annoyed) at how much I wanted and needed physical contact in order to feel loved. Lately, though, I have only been able to do this with my son and no one else. When my boyfriend hugs me, I feel smothered and want to push him away. When we make love, I get bored or irritated and can't really enjoy it, even though nothing has changed in our interaction with each other. I don't want to hug my parents anymore, or friends...I just don't want people to touch me. Only my son. I somehow feel like everyone else is disingenuous when they show me affection, and it makes me repulsed. I hate feeling like I am obligated to hug and kiss (on the cheek) family members when I see them, and I really don't like feeling obligated to my boyfriend. The idea that because I want personal space for a while (I have no idea how long I will feel this way) makes me wonder if he will turn to someone else for the physical attention he isn't receiving from me.

Has anyone dealt with something like this? Did it pass quickly, or did you eventually realize that you had grown into a less physically affectionate person? This is the first time I have ever felt like this, and I'm starting to feel like it may be a symptom of a larger issue that I can't identify...or maybe it's just a phase?

Thanks in advance for any input. All opinions are appreciated :-)

P.S. I am tired, and not keen on spell-checking or proof-reading, so please forgive my laziness (as my name indicates, I am LAZY) and don't judge my grammar or spelling too harshly. LOL