You're right Open Eyes, I know you are. Thank you.

I'm sorry to hear about what was done to you aswell and I guess it must have been pretty angering to have to give up a career because of it. And you're right, that's hindsight. I prefer forseight. I just hate the fact that some other person could make me do things I didn't want to do andI couldn't take control of the situation. I hate that fact so badly.

On the note about getting a new therapist, you're right. My current one even suggested maybe I'd be more comfortable sharing details with a woman. It was me who was adamant not to have a woman. I guess it's because my one before was female and she wasn't helpful at all, rather just opinionated. And of all the women I know around me, most are not too understanding of events like this, because "women are strong and can fight off anything and a woman who has something like this happen to her must have not done something right or allowed it in some ways to happen." That's why only three others know about this, and I chose them carefully because they've been through stuff that wasn't so nice either.

Did you have a female therapist to sort your problem out?