skysblue - I love what you quoted from that book. In fact...I ordered the book!!!!

improving - you reminded me how much I've learned how to "be" in everyday life from T. I grew up with abusive alcoholics and didn't have any healthy adults to show me how to be an adult. When I had kids I read SO many parenting books, and that helped...but still struggled.

T has a full, busy, happy life. I know how he spends his free time, what he does when he's stressed, etc and I have definitely modeled some of what I do after him. I know I am happier and healthier because of it, and I am SO grateful for him and his own work on his mental/physical/emotional/spiritual health.

I don't want to be a carbon copy of T either, but just seeing how an example of how a healthy adult lives has been SO enormously helpful.