you definately arent alone in being alone. i have been alone for i think its been 9 years now. too long to reemmber. lol. i got married at 21 because i was pregnant. i married an older man who was not the baby's father so i wouldnt have to move back home. he turned out to be a controlling abusive man. i left that relationship and went into another controling abusive relationship. i did this because both these men sought me out, wore me down into seeing them and i didnt think anybody else would want me so i didnt feel i had a choice if i ever wanted a relationship. my mother told me all my life that i was fat and no man would ever want me. but these men did. so i stayed in these relationships for twenty years of my life. now i have been alone for 9 years and i am haunted by my mothers words still. i have lost weight and looking better than ever, but still large at a size 18. people at work keep joking about how men are going to be all over me now not realizing they are enforcing my mothers words - i wasnt worthy of having a man when i was larger? i watch "yes to the dress" and see these very large brides with very nice looking fiancees so know it is possible to get a man despite my size, but where are they? i am fat and crazy. who wants that besides the controlling abusive men of my past. so i stay alone. its not what i wanted for myself, but i dont know if i am healthy enough not to fall back into the same type of relationship. so i stay alone. not that i have a choice to be somebody really, my lifestyle isnt condusive to meeting people. im sorry, im rambling. venting myself. i wont offer you any cliche's, i will just second what sara has said. do what makes you happy. dont sit around and wait for a relationship. have fun with yur life and when a relationship does come around, it will just make it better.