Anika, I too have a huge rocky relationship with my mom. It just makes it worse cause she is so different with her biological son. She just does not notice that she treats us different. The thing though is that it made me the person that I am now. I was not always there for my daughter due to my illness but when I was I was a better parent in which I could show my love to her, better listener, more supportive when times were hard for her, and I broke the cycle of the rocky relationship for the future of our families to come. It does hurt but think of what it has helped you become as a mom to your children. This also will help you with your relationship with them. So even though I have to live her with her and we argue constently, I either walk away, or just plain avoid her and do things when she is in another room. I am thankful though that it made me be a better person in life and a better mother now that I am back to stay.